For God's sake, once in your life take the time to focus on your own life from the beginning till now as much as you remember. Ask for the aid of Allah (Nasr) to open up (Fath), and for each moments of your life which there have been any conflicts or problems and for them you have suffered a little or a lot seek Allah's perfect forgiveness (Esteghfar) for your own share and role in those conflicts or problems even if you believe you have been innocent and flawless, which is truly a false belief. Be modest and ask for His forgiveness because sometimes you have had a great share and role in them while thinking about yourself as a victim.
Maybe it takes some time, but do not worry; it is worth it. It is unbelievably shocking when you remember all those faces and events one by one, and ask for Allah's forgiveness for your own share and role in making any of those people suffer and affecting any of those events to go wrong. It is touching your heart and soul in an extraordinary way, and at the end you understand how much God has helped you (Nasr) to purify yourself and get rid of all that heaviness of hopelessness and sense of guilt (Fath). It is like being born again with a refreshed soul to start and think much more hopefully and clearly, recognize your faults, and find much better solutions for the problems which have not been resolved yet (Fath).
It is the miracle of "Nasr and Fath-Esteghfar-Nasr and Fath" chain that you can experience yourself.
When comes the aid of Allah (Nasr) and the victory (Fath), do remember to glorify and hymn your Lord's praise and ask Him for forgiveness (Esteghfar), since He is so relenting.